Having a baby overseas without your support network

It’s always been one of my dreams to live in Australia and in 2016 I made it a reality! I’m originally from the UK. I have always had the travel bug since leaving school, and before living in Australia, I used to work in Qatar, for many years. 

My career has always took priority in my life, however, as my thirties approached I knew it was time to start thinking more about starting a family.

Coping with my pregnancy while I was overseas and away from my support network was hard. I felt isolated and emotional. I hadn’t even had the opportunity to settle in before I found out I was pregnant so I hadn’t built any kind of social circle in Adelaide.

I felt so alone

At my 20-week Morphology scan I was informed that I had, Complete Placenta Previa and a Bi Lobed Placenta (two parts of the placenta), my placenta was completely covering my cervix, and the chance of a natural birth were very slim. I felt like I had let myself and everyone around me down because I could not bring my baby into the world naturally. I was very upset and even now I do struggle to say the words " I gave birth."

My pregnancy became higher risk and as time passed more doctors and consultants became involved in the management of my ante natal care. I had several bleeds throughout the pregnancy with multiple hospital stays.

I would frequently just burst into tears, I missed my family so much!!

 

 At 25 weeks pregnant, the doctors discovered on a ultrasound scan that I had “Vasa Previa Type 2”. This is when I really thought my baby would not survive. 

The diagram below demonstrates how I was carrying my baby. The babies blood vessels were completely covered the cervix so if my waters had broken, it could have lead to devastating consequences for the child. I felt like a ticking time bomb! 

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I kept saying to myself, "I can’t believe how unlucky I have been, why me?" Now, I have turned that around to say “I can’t believe how lucky I was!!”

I made it! 

At 36+1 I walked into the operating theatre, more than ready to deliver my baby by elective cesarean. I could not believe I reached the planned c section date. Master Dylan Reynolds was born on the 18th October 2016, my miracle baby. The doctors briefed me that with the baby arriving prematurely, various support units would be on standby ready to assist with our care. Thankfully he born healthy and at an incredible weight of 3320g! I am not sure if that is because he had two placenta’s feeding him or if my chocolate cravings had paid off!

If I had to advise anyone who was going through a similar situation, firstly having a baby overseas without a support network is very difficult. 

“You have to dig deep and find your inner strength to push yourself through the hard, emotional times!

There are many support systems in place to help you—take all the offers of help you can get. All the hospital staff and doctors were very easy to talk too. I would say that if you are having a high-risk pregnancy, similar to mine, stay as calm as you can (I know it’s not easy!) and try to make decisions with a clear mind. At some points of the pregnancy, I felt like I had information overload!

I am now happy to say that my little boy is 11 months old and I am embracing motherhood to the best of my ability. We are approaching Dylan’s first birthday, and I have to say its the hardest job I have ever done or can ever imagine doing! It has been an incredible journey so far, and I hope it forever continues.

Have you had a baby overseas without your support network? 

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