Top 3 personality traits/skills needed for a smooth relocation

Now, I know we can’t change our personality type, (although that would be nice sometimes!) however, if you are planning a relocation you might want to look at ensuring you have packed these 3 personality traits/skills into your suitcase! 

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#1. Patience

Firstly, you need to be patient and allow yourself enough time to settle. Everyone "settles" at a different pace and the need to exercise your patience is right up there at the top of the list! 

 

Re-adjusting and making a new home, feel like home, can take time and you need to develop your ability to handle timelines! It's not a race, you just have to be heading in the right direction! 

 

We often want everything yesterday, but from my experiences and from discussions with my clients, that feeling of "belonging" does not come overnight. Establishing a new routine, developing a new social network and navigating your way around your new surroundings will take time. So hold back on giving yourself a hard time and remember you are on the right way to a successful integration into your new location! 

 

You may be moving to a completely new area, which has a different pace of life, both in the personal and business field. Now you're going to need that bag of patience again as things might not get completed in the timeframes that you are used to.

#2. Ability to adapt

Relocating can be somewhat of a smoother experience if you are resilient and have the ability to adapt to new conditions/changes in a positive way. Take all the changes in your stride. Can you bounce back after a substantial change in your living conditions?

I believe that having the ability to adapt and bounce back from change is a must for relocating. A good example can be handling a change in the climate - the weather may be different in your new location to where you have been living prior to the move.

I personally moved from the UK to Qatar, Middle East. Living in the Middle East brings the huge challenge of adapting to the rise in temperature. I had to learn and adapt to the strong heat. I have worked with many client's who have transitioned to colder climates, that also can take time to adjust. I help my clients develop the mindset, that there are some factors of relocating that you change and some that are not in your control. The climate is not in your control, you do have to adapt accordingly. 

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#3. Flexibility

Flexibility is a key personality trait/skill required for a successful relocation, Your comfort zone and the routine that you have been familar with, is now in the past and you're now left in the uncertainty field, having to start all over again! You can take this change as a brand new opportunity and be flexible in developing a new routine and adjusting to the change accordingly, rather than dwelling on the negative aspects of feeling that you have lost everything during the transition.

I work with clients to focus on developing and maintaining a positive mindset; embrace the changes with flexibility, openness and an focusing on the excellent opportunity ahead for a fresh start. 

 

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These traits and skills, can all be built upon as part of your personality development plan during the relocation transition. During my coaching sessions, I will help you to embrace these skills and traits. As a Relocation Coach, I am passionate about making your transition as smooth as possible and that includes using these skills, and many others. I am here to keep you on the right track  looking forward! 

What do you think are the personality traits and skills needed for a successful relocation? 

I would love to assist you on your relocation journey. 

Contact me today to book your FREE 30 Minute Discovery Coaching Session. 

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How brisk walking helps boost my positivity and creativity? 

Walking has increased my positivity and creativity in so many ways that I wanted to write a blog about it, to share with you all the benefits it can bring to your life.

I hope this makes you dust of your trainers and head outdoors!

I started taking brisk walks for exercise when I was living in Qatar. I know, can you imagine how crazy I am, starting an outdoor walking exercise regime in the Middle Eastern heat?! It was one of the best things I have ever started.

Unfortunately, too many Friday brunches of nonstop champagne had indeed made me put on a few extra pounds in the first few months. 

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I decided enough was enough and it was time to take control of my life and exercise.

I was never one for sports; I found brisk walking was perfect for me. 

 

I bought my first walking tracker, a Fitbit, to count my steps many years ago. I was hooked and loved the motivation it gave me! I looked forward to my Friday morning walks on the corniche where I could do some serious “stepping.” 

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It was incredible having a goal of 10,000 steps to work towards each day. It encouraged me, and if I finished the day on 8000 steps I would make sure I did another short walk to ensure I hit my goal of 10,000!! It was very addictive, luckily in a good way!

Not only that, but it was improving my overall fitness and helped me shed some of the extra pounds of “Doha weight.”

I was smashing the recommended record of 30 minutes brisk walking a day.

 

Life has moved on from living in Qatar, and I am residing in Australia now, with a new baby. I wanted to advance my daily steps even further and start shedding some of my “baby weight.” I love nothing more than walking with Dylan in his pram, he is happy, and I am feeling energized, alert and ready to take on the world.

Personally, I have found that getting outdoors, and enjoying the fresh air helps my thought process. I am a lover of walking outside, rather than on a treadmill. I prefer to look at the trees, the cars passing by, the sky, anything, rather than a blank wall when on the treadmill.

Starting my own business, juggling motherhood and managing a house/husband is stressful. Walking is my time I relax, often listen to an audiobook and exercise altogether, bonus! I have had so many good business ideas when walking. I do my best thinking at this time.  

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I do make sure I walk with friends at times as I find it easy to walk and talk! If you have such a busy life and time management is an issue (like me), then you will know it’s not always possible to schedule time for the gym! Even financially, gym memberships can be high, so in my eyes, brisk walking is a good substitute. It comes with the bonus of being free! 

In my opinion, start out by buying a step tracker and set yourself a step goal; it does not have to be crazy high. Set an amount of steps that are achievable for you. Listening to positive music while walking can help give you that extra motivation! Enjoy the positives that walking can bring to your life. 

Does brist walking boost your positivity?

I would love to assist you on your relocation journey. 

Contact me today to book your FREE 30 minutes discovery coaching session!  

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Having a baby overseas without your support network

It’s always been one of my dreams to live in Australia and in 2016 I made it a reality! I’m originally from the UK. I have always had the travel bug since leaving school, and before living in Australia, I used to work in Qatar, for many years. 

My career has always took priority in my life, however, as my thirties approached I knew it was time to start thinking more about starting a family.

Coping with my pregnancy while I was overseas and away from my support network was hard. I felt isolated and emotional. I hadn’t even had the opportunity to settle in before I found out I was pregnant so I hadn’t built any kind of social circle in Adelaide.

I felt so alone

At my 20-week Morphology scan I was informed that I had, Complete Placenta Previa and a Bi Lobed Placenta (two parts of the placenta), my placenta was completely covering my cervix, and the chance of a natural birth were very slim. I felt like I had let myself and everyone around me down because I could not bring my baby into the world naturally. I was very upset and even now I do struggle to say the words " I gave birth."

My pregnancy became higher risk and as time passed more doctors and consultants became involved in the management of my ante natal care. I had several bleeds throughout the pregnancy with multiple hospital stays.

I would frequently just burst into tears, I missed my family so much!!

 

 At 25 weeks pregnant, the doctors discovered on a ultrasound scan that I had “Vasa Previa Type 2”. This is when I really thought my baby would not survive. 

The diagram below demonstrates how I was carrying my baby. The babies blood vessels were completely covered the cervix so if my waters had broken, it could have lead to devastating consequences for the child. I felt like a ticking time bomb! 

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I kept saying to myself, "I can’t believe how unlucky I have been, why me?" Now, I have turned that around to say “I can’t believe how lucky I was!!”

I made it! 

At 36+1 I walked into the operating theatre, more than ready to deliver my baby by elective cesarean. I could not believe I reached the planned c section date. Master Dylan Reynolds was born on the 18th October 2016, my miracle baby. The doctors briefed me that with the baby arriving prematurely, various support units would be on standby ready to assist with our care. Thankfully he born healthy and at an incredible weight of 3320g! I am not sure if that is because he had two placenta’s feeding him or if my chocolate cravings had paid off!

If I had to advise anyone who was going through a similar situation, firstly having a baby overseas without a support network is very difficult. 

“You have to dig deep and find your inner strength to push yourself through the hard, emotional times!

There are many support systems in place to help you—take all the offers of help you can get. All the hospital staff and doctors were very easy to talk too. I would say that if you are having a high-risk pregnancy, similar to mine, stay as calm as you can (I know it’s not easy!) and try to make decisions with a clear mind. At some points of the pregnancy, I felt like I had information overload!

I am now happy to say that my little boy is 11 months old and I am embracing motherhood to the best of my ability. We are approaching Dylan’s first birthday, and I have to say its the hardest job I have ever done or can ever imagine doing! It has been an incredible journey so far, and I hope it forever continues.

Have you had a baby overseas without your support network? 

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I would love to assist you on your relocation journey. 

Contact me today to book your FREE 30 minutes discovery coaching session!  

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Waiting for your visa - Top 10 tips to survive the anxious wait!

Deciding to move overseas is a big enough decision on its own, however, as I am sure many of you are aware, making the decision is just the beginning of the relocating process. 

Everyone has their reasons for moving abroad. Many of us find ourselves having to apply and wait for visa approval to enable you and possibly your family, to live overseas. This stage can be a real waiting game! 

My first relocation was to Qatar, which started back in December 2009. I visited Qatar for a few days for my job interview. I found out the week of Christmas that I was offered the position, then came the tricky part, I did not move to Qatar until May 2010! 

I understand that people have waited for visa approval a lot longer than six months, it can be years! However, personally waiting a few months, felt like an eternity. I can empathise with your pain! 

It's like living in limbo! You can’t do anything new with your current life until the day your visa is approved, and then it's all a big rush to start your new life overseas! During the waiting stage, I felt anxious, uncertain and frustrated. It is a truly an emotional time! 

Awaiting approval for an Australian Visa (now that was a long waiting game!) Again, waiting in limbo, it felt awful and very unsettling. I felt that the Australian Visa requirements were much more in depth and required accurate details on all stages of the application process. 

As human’s we crave stability, and during this time of your life, you may feel like you can’t lead a normal life. You may feel very indecisive, wondering if this is the week you may obtain visa approval. Your immediate future feels forgotten about; you struggle to book any events or holidays that are more than a week away! You can’t make any home improvements, change jobs, or buy a new car! You’re on hold, I am with you, and I have been in those shoes!

 

 Visa applications can take a lot of time and dedication. It is a waiting game of just how long it will all take for your request for a visa to be reviewed. 

Here are a few suggestions to help cope while waiting in limbo for a decision on your visa application.

#1. Try and relax!!

Yes, yes I can hear you saying “Kate, you're joking, how can I relax at a time like this? Stressing about visa applications is not going to make it all happen any faster. If you have provided as much information in your visa application as you can, then from your side there is not much more you can do, it is out of your control. 

#2. Take the time while waiting to start planning the moving process

If you’re in the limbo stage, then use the time wisely and start planning. You can start making some provisional decisions. Are you taking a suitcase or packing a whole house up? Planning is essential when it comes to relocating, but at this stage, I wouldn’t recommend to take any action and book anything. I strongly recommend waiting until you have the visa approval before making any concrete decisions about your moving process. Take the waiting period to start sorting out your house and deciding what you would take with you and what removal company you may use? 

#3. Start to research your new country

Go on forums, Facebook groups and try to talk to people who are in the same position as you. Hopefully, this will boost your positivity while learning the patience of the relocation process. Learn as much as you can before making a move. Information is power when it comes to relocating. If you know, you will need to find a job when you arrive overseas then start looking before making the journey and try to make contacts.


#4. Try and find out the estimated visa turnaround times

Often immigration authorities will give a rough timeline on how long your visa application may take to be reviewed. It might help if you have a rough idea of how long the process may take. Check this out!

#5. Spend time with your family and friends

While in the waiting period spend as much time with your friends and family as you can. If you’re leaving your home town, your family and friends use this time wisely, spend quality time with them while you’re still living near them, especially if you know that if your visa is approved and your move may happen pretty quickly. I moved in a rush to Qatar and regretted not spending more time with my family and friends before I left.

#6. Have a good spring clean!

You may decide to start selling your non-essential belongings. It can keep you busy and earn you some extra cash before you move overseas! Think of it as spring cleaning time!

#7. Try Meditation and Yoga! 

Meditation and Yoga can help minimise stress. It could start to help elevate some of the anxiety and stress when preparing for a big move overseas. Plus it could be a new hobby for you to continue with in your new country. 

#8. Might not go your way

Unfortunately, in life some decisions don’t always go your way and how we planned. It may be that your visa is not approved. At this time it may seem your world has come crashing down! However, start to think if moving overseas is what you want then work on finding another way to make it a reality, try to keep positive and focused. Remember we often grow as people when we pick ourselves back up after a defeat! 

#9. Talk to people! 

It is so important to remember you’re not alone during this time of your life. Talk about your situation and feelings with others. Do not suffer in silence. Talk to someone, get yourself on the expat forums and realise there are others in the same situation. The waiting game can be so emotional (I talk from experience). I have been in your shoes and I know that you feel like your the only one going through the situation. Yes, your circumstances maybe unique to you but your not the only one to feel the abundance of emotions!  

#10. I'm here!

That leads me to conclude this blog by saying, I am not an immigration agent, I base my information on my personal experiences and research, I am a Relocation Coach who works with courageous women who are planning a move, just moved or beyond. Coaching can help you in life! If you have not tried it, contact me today.

I would love to assist you on your relocation journey. 

Contact me today to book your FREE 30 minutes discovery coaching session!  

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Feeling guilty about moving overseas, here's why?

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There are various reasons as to why we decide to pack up and move overseas. General deciders and motivators can be that the new country can offer you and your immediate family, a better quality of life or a new job awaits you with increased income. You may even just decide that you want to travel and see the world! 

Deciding to move overseas is not an easy decision to make

Careful thought and planning has to be taken when deciding to move away or not from your home, your comfort zone and leaving your loved ones behind. It is not a light hearted decision to make. 
Some people face pressure from their family and friends about their life choices. You may feel stressed when deciding if relocating is right for you or not and it can be made even harder with family members and friends having their own opinion on what you should do. 
However, if you let a good opportunity slip by you, you maybe constantly wondering “what if”. Just make sure it’s your decision whichever road you take, and you play a big part in the decision making. 

Understanding the Negativity

You may face negativity from those people who are closest to you, and you will feel like you have broken their hearts. What is important is that you remain calm through the negativity. If you have decided to move and you’re happy with your decision, your family and friends should hopefully respect your decision. Some of your loved ones will be 100% supportive, and some will be less accepting of your life decisions. They will miss you; this is natural and you will find it to be emotional. Life is full of chances and changes, and sometimes we take that leap into the unknown to try better our lives.

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We face many challenges as expats, starting with the decision to pack up and take the leap to move overseas, away from all our family and friends. I would love to say that the saying goodbye part gets easier, but it doesn’t. 
The guilty feeling does not stop once you have waved goodbye and got on the plane to your new home. The hello’s and goodbye’s of expats lives are very emotional and unfortunately a part of living the overseas lifestyle. 

There are no magic coping techniques which will make your guilty feelings go away. However, what is important is how we cope with that guilt. That expat roller coaster feeling again, some days you will feel guiltier than others, sometimes feeling very much an up and down. 

I have learnt as an expat, you do have to be selfish, and you do have to grow a back bone when dealing with all of these emotions! Otherwise, they will eat you up and ruin your overseas experience. You need to understand that when you decide to live overseas, you’re not going to be able to go to all family functions back home, you will miss Birthdays, Christmas’s and get together’s and you will hear the words “ But if you lived at home” many times.  

 

I have been living away for many years now, and I still feel guilty after each visit back home. I have developed coping techniques to help minimise the effect it has on myself and my immediate family here in Australia. It’s your future, and you do have to be independent and self-sufficient when living away. Your life in your overseas country will hopefully have many advantages including providing a stable future for yourself, your children and even your grandchildren. You will have to remind yourself of why you are there constantly. Especially when you’re speaking to family and friends back home, and you realise that life is changing back home. If or when you decide to return, you will probably find it won’t be the same as when you left. 


I always say make your family and friends feel welcome in your new country. Make sure they know (that if allowed) they can visit anytime. I understand every family has their circumstances, but it’s important to let them know that if the option presents itself, they’re welcome to have holidays with you. 

 

One major challenge I face is that I have a son who is under one, he is growing up so fast without any of his family members around him, apart from his Mum and Dad. I faced a complicated pregnancy, and now the journey of his upbringing away from family and friends. I know what it feels like to face these challenges and emotions! 

 

What would we do without Skype, WhatsApp and FaceTime? 

 

Technology advances have made communicating with our family and friends back home even easier. I understand that there are technophobes out there. I have had to become more of a technological savvy myself, and that's from launching my own business! However, the likes of Skype, WhatsApp and FaceTime are all free and can be easily downloadable on to most computers or devices. A helpful tip, try and assist family and friends in getting the technology set up before you make the move overseas. Otherwise, you will face the “I can’t get this Skype or FaceTime to work!”

Reach out for help

As always, you're not alone. Feeling guilty about moving is just one of the challenges that we face when we move. Remember it's your future, and you have to do what is best for you and your immediate family. Sometimes we just need an impartial person to talk through these issues with and also to speak to someone who can offer support on coping with the abundance of these overwhelming emotions we feel when living away. That person can be me! If you decide to try one of my coaching sessions, I ensure that the sessions are structured to offer you the maximum support you deserve and to keep you focused on your future path overseas.

I would love to assist you on your relocation journey. 

Contact me today to book your FREE 30 minutes discovery call!  

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Understanding the Aussie Lingo

 Is there a language barrier between different English speaking countries?  (UK to OZ)

This blog is touching on the subject of language barriers between different English speaking countries (in my case the UK and Australia). This will be one of my many blogs along the way sharing my own experiences. In the near future I will also be blogging about  "can culture shock hit you moving from an English speaking country to Australia?."   

When I moved from the UK to Australia, it was very much a different experience for me than my move to Qatar. One thing I said to myself before making the move was "at least I don’t have to worry about the language barrier this time." How wrong I was!

It is not easy moving to another English speaking country. Both countries might have English as their first language, but they are both very different. Like anywhere in the world accents differ depending on what part of the country you grew up in. I am a perfect example of that. I am from Hull in Yorkshire and I frequently will say words that are certainly not in the English dictionary. 

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HUMBER BRIDGE :) GORGEOUS PHOTO!

 

When I was growing up I used to love watching Home&Away and Neighbours (actually that has not changed I still do!) however this has not prepared me enough for my move to Australia. 

When I arrived in Australia it did take quite a while to get acclimatised to the local lingo! I found that many of the words seem to be shortened. A couple of examples are, in Australia, Afternoon is "Arvo" and Barbecue is "Barbie." After about a week living in Australia I did go out and buy myself a Aussie lingo book! 

 This book made me chuckle with laughter! 

This book made me chuckle with laughter! 

 

When I met some Aussie’s I did keep getting asked the same question "Are you a pom?” I quickly learnt to understand people are in fact asking if I am English? 

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I was invited to a coffee morning and it was suggested to me "bring a plate" ,now I found this very confusing and after further research realised it in fact meant "bring some food" not that they were having a shortage of cutlery. 

My dad was a little confused when I told him to make sure he packed his "thongs" when he came to visit from the UK. Thankfully he soon learnt I meant "flip flops" and not his underwear. All good experiences I say. 

The Aussie lingo is very different to the British English, but I feel it’s all part and parcel of getting used to a new culture and their norms. 

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Love my current home :)

 

* Top Tip! 

In my opinion during an expatriation move you have to understand that language is going to be different and cultures are different worldwide and just because you know something differently does not necessarily mean that's the right way. 

Everyone smiles in the same language
— George Carlin

Few other tips for embracing the change:

• Do not try to change someone! We all speak differently, embrace it and enjoy the other's culture and norms. 

• Try and do a bit more research than watching Home & Away before moving to Australia. Invest in an Aussie Lingo book. I am not saying learn it from cover to cover, but have a basic understanding before arriving and enjoy it!. 

•  If you do not know what someone means, then just ask. There is no harm in just saying "I am sorry, but I am not sure what you're asking me?". Can you imagine if I had just turned up with a plate for the coffee morning with no food? 

• Maintain your sense of humour! Do not take everything so seriously, if you do, you will just stress yourself out. 

I would love to assist you on your relocation journey. 

Contact me today to book your FREE 30 minutes discovery coaching session!  

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