Top 5 tips for managing friendships when living away

Like all my blogs this is another one that is particularly close to my heart. Only recently have I become conscious of managing friendships. It has taken a long time to become aware of my behaviour, and because of this, I have lost friends along the way. 

When you move to a brand new location, finding new friendships is a vital part of adapting to your new life. It takes patience, a lot of time and effort. You will need to focus on building your fresh, local social circle for immediate support in your new environment. Unfortunately, this can mean you spend less time communicating with your friends who are in other locations in the world. 

It is important to remember that life changes and does move on at a reasonably fast rate. It may be that your friendships with others in different locations will drift apart. Life events will perhaps become different for you both as your life travels on different paths. It can become apparent that you lose things in common and on the flip side you start to have more in common with your new local friends. Friendships are a two-way street and maintaining your friendships back home or with friends who are in another location takes both of you to make it work. 

After living overseas for many years, I can honestly say that I have met some wonderful friends on my travels. I know that many of those friendships will last for life. However, on the other hand, life changes and friends will come and go. Not everyone is going to become your best friend. 

From my own experiences, in Qatar, I met a handful of real friends who I stay in contact with now, even though I no longer live there. You will build that special bond with people which leads to long-standing friendships. 

I was once told, "If you can count the number of close friends on the one hand, then you're blessed". 

Here are my top 5 tips to maintaining your friendships back home when living away 

#1. Try to put yourself in their shoes

You have moved away and are experiencing different adventures to your friends that are still living back home or in different locations. Your friends around the world are no doubt pleased to hear about your adventures but be conscious of making sure you listen to what’s happening in their life. I learnt this lesson the hard way. I became selfish at times and used to talk about myself (maybe a bit too much). Unfortunately, it took a disagreement with a very close friend to open my eyes and notice my behaviour. I needed to start asking my friends how they were feeling and genuinely begin listening to what was going on in their lives, only then did I become their true friend again. 

#2. Do not let time zones get in the way of communication! Use technology! 

You may be living in different time zones to your friends but don't use that as a way of missing out on making contact. I currently live in Australia, so communicating with friends back in the UK is not easy! However, I suggest that you need to work together to set up a convenient time for you both to speak, maybe once a month. Make use of the growing world of Facebook and Skype to communicate. These tools are there to help people communicate who live on different sides of the world to each other! 

#3. Make sure your friends and family know they are invited to visit. 

You will no doubt feel guilty that you are the one that left and moved from your old location. Don't let the guilt take over your new experience. Make sure that your friends know that they can visit you at your new place! To give you an example of this, one of my client's was having trouble overcoming the challenge that her friends and family would not visit her in her new location, during our session, I asked her, "have you made it clear that they are welcome to visit?" She replied with "they would just know they were". Clarification goes a long way in this situation! 

#4. Keep a blog

Keep a blog of your new experiences, that you can share with your family and friends. If family members and friends have the blog link, then they can frequently check it online and read your blog meaning they can keep up to date on your adventures. Keep it real and write from the heart! Add some images as well. 

#5. Don’t struggle alone

If you’re living in a new location and are finding it difficult and emotional to manage your friends or even living away, then please don’t hesitate to contact me to arrange a free coaching discovery call. Coaching can be a valuable tool when you are transitioning to a new location. Please feel free to send me a message anytime. 

Thanks for reading.

 My Doha bestie :) miss rhona! 

My Doha bestie :) miss rhona! 

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I would love to assist you on your relocation journey. 

Contact me today to book your FREE 30 minutes discovery coaching session!  

 

 

5 Top Tips For Avoiding Stress When Relocating

Relocating to a new place can be stressful. You might even have spent all of your life at your old house, and now you feel sad about suddenly living in a brand new place. Whatever the circumstances of your move, relocating doesn’t have to be a difficult, stressful time.

Here are the top 5 tips to help you avoid stress.

#1. Realisation

When it’s time to relocate, the most important aspect of your journey is realization.

You have to come to terms with the fact that life is not meant to stay in one place. Change is a necessary and wonderful part of life, and it helps you grow.

When you first came to the town or the neighborhood that you’re now leaving, you had to make it a home. You met people and forged friendships and made memories with those friends. Try to recognize that now you’re simply travelling to a new place where new friends and new memories are waiting for you.

#2. Getting Professional Help

Moving houses is not an easy task. On top of all of the emotional turmoil you might be feeling, you have the huge, overwhelming job of moving everything you own from one house to another. This, on its own, can be stressful. You have to pack all of your belongings into boxes, you have to lift heavy furniture (that could easily be damaged if you’re not careful), and you might even have to make multiple trips between your old house and your new house if you don’t have enough space for everything.

Getting professional moving help to relocate your belongings is the easiest way to minimize your stress. Before making the final deal, ask the mover for the estimated cost and then compare that quote with 2-3 other professionals to make sure you’re getting the best price. If you really don’t want to pay professional movers, you can always invite your friends and family over to help you out.

#3. New Opportunities

Understand that moving to a new place will be a challenge, but it will also be full of new opportunities. Try to look at it as a chance to make new friends and try new things. Become involved in your new community as soon as possible, making friends and finding people with similar interests.

If you don’t know where to start, you can participate in a number of activities in your area to find out what you like and meet other people who like the same things. If your school or nearby park has a volleyball team, join it! If a workshop or class is taking place, sign up for it! Having new experiences will not only help you meet people, but it will also help you learn more about yourself.

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#4. Comfort Zones

Moving to a new place is not an end-- it’s a new beginning! Try to relax and know that very soon you will settle in and feel stable. Naturally, in the beginning, you will feel a bit awkward and unsure, but that feeling can be reduced by getting out of your comfort zones. Try some new things and meet some new people!

Of course, if you’re really having a hard time with moving, it’s also okay to turn to the things that comfort you. Go to friends that you trust and ask them to spend some time with you. Play with your pet, or read your favorite books. Watch your favorite movies or TV shows if you’re feeling lonely and uncertain. Pen down your thoughts, or call someone close to you and share your experiences.

After a while, when you read your diary or talk to the person you confided in during this stressful time, if will feel good to look back and realize that you’re past that now. You’ll be able to look at this moving time with some perspective and realize that, even though you were stressed or sad, everything turned out just fine.

#5. New Routine

Always remember that it’s easier to change smaller things in your life when something big is also changing. Moving is the perfect time to establish a new, healthier routine! Maybe in your old house you had fallen into a stifling routine of going to school or work and then coming back home just to sit on the couch and watch TV. Now is the time to mix things up! Try going for a long walk or cooking a nice dinner when you get home from your day. If there’s a class you’ve been wanting to take or a new hobby you’ve been wanting to try, now is the time!

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It’s also a great time to set some new short-term goals for yourself. Give yourself the ultimate target of balance. Start reading books, meet new people, learn a new language, invest in relationships, have fun with friends and families, get a pet – make your life interesting by exploring new possibilities in your new home!

I would love to assist you on your relocation journey. 

Contact me today to book your FREE 30 minutes discovery coaching call! 

 

 

Top 6 ways to beat jet lag

Jet lag is very familiar for frequent fliers and international travellers. It can cause sleep disturbance, the fatigue feeling during the day, problems in concentration and difficulty in performing normal functioning tasks. 


Jet laggers feel sleepy, exhausted, irritable, slow, and a bit disoriented. This unpleasant sensation is the result when you cross over time zones in your travel. The seriousness of jet lag depends on the number of time zones the traveller crosses over, within a short span of time. 


All activities of the body fall under the regulation of the 24-hour cycle by the body clock or circadian rhythms. Its processes affect the behavioural, biochemical, and physiological system. However, it is affected by environmental factors outside like the night and day cycle of light-dark affects it. 

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So how can we beat jet lag........
Here are my top 6 ways to beat jet lag:


1. Before you leave, simulate your new schedule.
If you are travelling eastward; move your bedtime earlier. Change your schedule, half an hour earlier every night for several nights before you travel. If you are going west, do the opposite.  Sounds crazy but this can really help. 


2. Adapt to your new schedule while in flight.
Before getting on the aeroplane set your watch to the local time in your arrival point. If it is nighttime in the place where you are going, try to sleep; if daytime, keep awake. If you cannot fall asleep, just try to rest as much as possible. I know that's easier said than done on an aircraft. 


3. Stay hydrated
To avoid dehydration, drink lots of water before, during, and after your flight. I always say try and avoid drinking alcohol or caffeine on the night before your trip. 

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4. Be physically active (when you can!).
Within the trip, walk around and do some static exercises; at least do some stretching on the flight.


5. Sensible eating.
You can adopt a heavy diet days before travel. However, avoid eating a high carb or fatty diet before bedtime as it can disrupt sleep. Keep all this in mind when you are planning to sleep onboard the aircraft. Personally, I like to have a nice meal and then snooze. 


6. Minimize sleep distractions.
To help you sleep on the plane and in your destination, use earplugs and eye mask or earplugs to help you sleep on the plane and at your destination. Don't forget these when your packing your hand luggage. 

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Let’s review…..
Jet lag can be nasty and I found out that all of the above ways are very useful at beating it. 

Here is an example, from my own experiences of time zone crossings. Say I have landed in a new time zone when it is their day time and all I want to do is sleep!!! I do everything in my will power to stay awake during the day light hours and then sleep when it is dark and nighttime. 


I program myself! Now it is not easy and takes determination. If I'm staying at a hotel, to avoid the temptation of crawling into bed, I will stay up and go out. Been in the fresh air during the day can always help you sleep at a nighttime. Then once nighttime arrives you can have a long soak in the bath, few chapters of your latest book, and sleep dreams! 
If you can not stay awake during daylight hours and have to have a sleep, make it a short power nap and set your alarm so you do not oversleep. Talking from experience, oversleeping during day light hours will only prolong your jetlag. 


Remember if you do suffer from jet lag, it’s not forever! It may take a few days to run it's course! 

I would love to know how do you beat jet lag? 

I would love to assist you on your relocation journey. 

Contact me today to book your FREE 30 minutes discovery coaching call!   

10 Reasons Why You Should Hire a Relocation Coach

Whether you’re moving for business or as a trailing spouse (or for any other reason) relocation is a stressful and challenging process.

Don’t you agree?

You’re facing a bunch of practical issues, the feelings of overwhelm, the fear of the unknown...

Is this all normal?

Of course, it is.

Can you overcome all of it alone and get to the point where you call your new residence “a home“? With no help? All on your own?

Of course, you can.

So why do you need a relocation coach?

Well, you don’t.

We, people are not plants. And we are capable of moving around the planet as we please. It takes time and effort, but we manage to adjust and triumph over all the turbulence of the relocation.

But the keywords here are “time and effort“. You will get on with your life. For sure. But how long until you do?

How long before you feel like yourself again? How much are you willing to suffer, on your own, until you “get to the other side“?

And why do it the hard way when you can hire a professional relocation coach and get the most out of this unique and adventurous experience?

The decision to hire a relocation coach is to take the road less traveled. It represents modern and "reach your full potential" approach.

Plus, here are the top 10 advantages of hiring one:

#1. Hiring a relocation coach will save you a great deal of energy.

Only talking to a professional relocation coach who has, by definition, gone through the process themselves, will ease your stress, provide you comfort and emotional support.

#2. It’s a shortcut to the emotional stability.

The right relocation coach will guide you through your relocation related feelings. He/she will ask you the right questions and offer advice to help you resolve the negative feelings. You will regain your emotional stability and peace in no time.

#3. You get an instant best friend with coaching background and specific life experience you can get access too.

You may have fantastic friends or family members who will support you emotionally, but hiring a relocation coach is the 3 in 1 package.

#4. Your relocation coach isn’t bias.

No doubt, family and friends wish what’s best for us. 

#5. You’ll focus on your life goals right away and create an action plan on how to achieve them. 

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#6. You’ll get an accountability partner.

The right relocation coach is not your buddy. She/he will hold on to your words and gently nudge you to do the best you can to reach your goals and thrive in new terms.

#7. Be more confident and motivated.

When you say: “I can’t!“ the right relocation coach will tell you: “Sure you can!“ and show you how. When you say “I don’t know how“ she/he will guide you until your bullet point your steps to whatever you want for your new life.

#8. You will understand yourself and your needs better.

You moved and everything changed. Suddenly you are confused, disoriented and isolated. The right relocation coach will use different methods to help you reconnect with your true self and recognise your needs, so you can work on satisfying them.

#9. You’ll receive encouragement and support to get out of your comfort zone smoothly.

Getting out of the comfort zone is rough and even more so when we’re unfamiliar with the environment. But, it’s so much easier when you have someone to hold your back.

#10. Unleash your potential to have the life you’ve always dreamed of.

If you hire a relocation coach, you'll avoid spending loads of time only to adjust to your new circumstances. While in the meanwhile, you'll be leaving your overall life goals unpacked. 

Hiring the right relocation coach can speed up the adjustment process while setting up (and achieving) goals which lead to the fulfilment of the true desires of your life.

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I would love to hear your experiences with relocation coaches? Good or bad.

And if you’re considering to hire one, why not start with booking a FREE 30 minutes discovery coaching call with ME?

I would love the opportunity, as I am a Professional Relocation Coach, fully ready to support you on your journey! 

Why is self-care important during the relocation process?

Now, you may be up to your eyes in moving boxes, whether you are packing for your move or have just arrived in your new home. However, I've decided to write this blog as I think it is so important that you look after yourself and maintain a self-care routine during the whole relocation process. 

 

You have to remember that you’re probably going to be more stressed than usual as you make your way through the moving transition. You may be feeling physically and mentally exhausted.

I honestly can say, that with every move I have made I felt stressed at some point. You're going to be overwhelmed with so many emotions going through your mind. All of this can take your energy away from you and therefore it is important that you take the time to recharge your batteries, so you’re ready for the next day!

 

My 3 main tips:

 

#1. Frequent walks can help with fitting exercise into your busy schedule and it has the added benefit of being fantastic for your mindset. In addition, it gives you time to think while you're walking! The other benefit of walking is, if you have just arrived at your new location there is no better way to check-out your neighbourhood than being on foot! 

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#2. Sleeping, yes I know you probably think there is not going to be much time for that but you must take the time to rest well – physically and mentally during the planning stage and when you have just arrived. If you find when you sleep you have too much on your mind then write these thoughts down and start journaling.

 

#3. One final and important tip to remember is to watch your eating habits throughout the relocation process. I totally understand you might not have the time to sit and have a relaxing dinner every night however, if you're having takeaways etc., make sure you're choosing healthier options. 

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I can’t stress enough the importance of looking inwards during the whole moving process.

Check in with yourself and listen to what your body is telling you. I have made several moves in my life and each time I've had to have a strong word with myself because if I'm not functioning correctly and I'm not looking after me, everything else seems to go wrong. 

We all know that relocation can trigger an overwhelm of emotions. Don’t think you're alone! 

If you have relocated, I would love to hear how you maintained your self care! Please comment below! 

I would love to assist you on your relocation journey. 

Contact me today to book your FREE 30 minutes discovery coaching call!